Ep 17: Part 3: Making Decisions in Our Adult Love Relationships

Written By Catherine Counihan

In this episode Cath talks about decision making in our adult love relationships.

She talks about friendship, the important role of mentalisation (Peter Fonagy and Anthony Bateman) and shares a really useful tool for decision making.

She references the work of John and Julie Gottman (The Gottman Institute) and shares an idea from Esther Perel. Including storytelling and vignettes from Cath’s own life.

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