Ep 67: Estrangement, Having a Narcissistic Mother and Growing Up in Motherhood with Harriet Shearsmith

Written By Catherine Counihan

In this episode Cath is joined by Harriet Shearsmith. Harriet is a coach, podcaster, Mum of 3 and the content creator behind @tobyandroo. In this episode she shares her experiences around growing up in a household where she always tended to the needs of her Mother, how she came to see the dynamics of her family, what action she has taken to protect herself as an adult and how she is shifting dynamics in her own family.

Harriet can be found on Instagram: @tobyandroo and @unfollowing_mum. She hosts a podcast for cycle breakers called Unfollowing Mum all about toxic families, estrangement and healing generational trauma.

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