the Grow Yourself Up Podcast
a podcast to support all of us in our adult lives
Many of us did not get our needs adequately met in childhood. The devastating legacy of childhood trauma, wounding and traumatic stress lives on in our brains, our bodies, our nervous systems and our behaviour/reactions impacting the way we turn up to our lives in many ways.
We are going to unpack all of this on Grow Yourself Up. This podcast will be a companion as you journey on your own road of healing and recovery.
You will learn you are not alone. Someone has been where you are. There is hope.
We will break down shame together and learn to cultivate self compassion. There is always the possibility for change. And regardless of what has happened in our past, as adults we have to take responsibility for our own lives.
We have to tend to our pain, our sadness and our dysfunction so that we can live a life we love and shift toxic patterns for our children.
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Ep 37: What Drives Anxiety and A Key Tool to Help
In this episode Cath delves into anxiety more, following on from Episode 34. She uses neuroscience to explain why those of us with a stressful/traumatic childhood are more prone to anxiety.
Ep 36: Growing Ourselves Up in Friendship and Work with Tamu Thomas (re-release)
In this episode Cath and Tamu Thomas talk about growing ourselves up in our adult friendships and what this can look like.
Ep 35: Being a Good Enough Parent
In this episode Cath speaks about how good enough parenting is rooted in relationship. When we tend to ourselves, begin to meet our own needs and deepen our own self connection, our parenting journey starts to become more intuitive.
Ep 34: Uncertainty, Anxiety and Control
In this episode Cath speaks to how we are much more likely to struggle with managing uncertainty and to experience anxiety when we have not had our needs met in childhood.
Ep 33: Mental Health and Personal Growth in our Mothering with Emily Adler Mosqueda
In this episode Cath is joined by Emily Adler Mosqueda. We discuss Emily's mothering experience. Emily shares how her postpartum time after the birth of her second daughter was much more challenging than her first. We examine what contributed to this touching on cultural expectations, perfectionism, rage, meeting our inner child in parenting, mental health, support and learning to make space for ourselves as mothers. Emily shares the arc of her journey explaining how she has landed in her own good enough space.
Ep 32: Practical Tips To Make Change
This episode is a continuation of Episode 30. In episode 30 Cath talked about being in our own power, being aware of our agency and using these to create the life we would love to live (while being aware of systemic constraints).
Ep 31: Being a Good Enough Mother with Ali Pember
In this episode Cath chats to coach and psychotherapist Ali Pember about what it means to be a good enough mother. This episode is full of insight and realness which many of you will identify with. Cath and Ali discuss Ali's journey to motherhood and how she has grown herself up along the way. Ali explains how she approached motherhood (an approach which will resonate with many Mums).
Ep 30: A Different Way to Approach a New Year (and why it is important)
New Year's resolutions can be so seductive for many of us, convincing us that we need a new version of ourselves (and that this is even possible in a short time frame).
Ep 29: A Loving Message To Support You and Your Values
In this special bonus episode released on Christmas Day, Cath talks about what can sometimes derail us over the holidays.
Ep 28: Words for When Things Feel Like Shit
Ironically Christmas is often a time when many of us struggle with our mental health and with staying in a regulated enough place.
Ep 27: Christmas and Self Compassion
There are some reflections on Christmas and how this may feel like a mixed time for many listeners (for multiple different reasons).
Ep 26: When Our Needs Feel Illegitimate
The way we come into relationships with our needs when we are babies and young children, has a huge influence on the way we learn to tend to our needs as adults.
Ep 25: Boundaries and Why Healing People Pleasing in Parenting is Important
In this episode Cath digs into the detail of people pleasing more, explaining why this is a sub-optimal parenting strategy and scenarios that can arise when we go down the route of people pleasing our children.
Ep 24: Managing the Challenge of Holiday Times to Thrive and Maximise Joy
In this deeply heartfelt and personal episode, Cath speaks to the complexity of managing family relationships around the holidays and high days (particularly when we have not had our needs met in childhood).
Ep 23: Patterns That Can Lead to People Pleasing and Starting to Stop
In this episode Cath colours in more of the people pleasing picture.
How and why does this arise in our family of origin? How were we set up to act as people pleasers? She speaks about patterns of relating and dysfunctional behaviours that are common to many families.
Ep 22: People Pleasing Patterns In Our Lives and Careers with Tamu Thomas
In this episode Cath is joined by her first guest, Tamu Thomas (Live Three Sixty). Cath and Tamu talk about Tamu's experience of motherhood, how she has grown herself up and how people pleasing turns up in her work and home life.
Ep 21: People Pleasing and Parenting
The beginning of this episode focuses on how, when we are perfectionists, we often don't stop and appreciate what we have done/completed/achieved. We just rush onto the next thing.
Ep 20: Why are Boundaries so Integral to Needs? (Re-release)
In episode 20 we look at why learning to put down boundaries is an essential part of actually getting our needs met. This episode (which is a re-release) is packed with suggestions, tips and ways to support yourself around boundaries and needs.
Ep 19: Balancing Our Own Healing with Raising Kids
In this episode, Cath looks at how we can balance our own healing with raising children. She shares an analogy which might help you tend to your needs, especially if you struggle to allow yourself to prioritise your needs, because you learnt how to put your needs last. Cath explains why looking after yourself is vital and an important role as a parent.
Ep 18: The Most Important Ingredient in Post Traumatic Growth
In this episode Cath reflects on how, when we are on a healing journey, the most important thing in the present moment is to develop a warm, supportive, loving relationship with all the different parts of ourselves.
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